Do you know if you’re making decisions that are sacrificing your happiness? My guess is you are, but you just don’t know it! Read on to found out the top ten decisions that can sacrifice your happiness…
This year I’ve become super passionate about giving myself the best possible chance at being the happiest I can be. I’ve done this through various physical and mental routines and rituals that have encouraged me to prioritise my happiness. I can honestly say that even through my most hormonal time of the month, I am still super positive and happy! Quite a difference from the usual emotional mess I can be in a week prior to THAT week we all know I’m speaking of!
What I’ve found through my own personal experience and with the coursework I’ve done this year, is that we often don’t make decisions in life that are in favour of our own happiness. We choose “easy” ways out, we choose what we perceive as being of “higher value”, and we unknowingly sacrifice our own happiness in the long run because we’ve falsely determined what society deems as “the good life”, is really the reason why we’re not happy.
However, the “easy” route creates different troubles you never could anticipate; you wasted time and money on things you didn’t want or need because it was better value; and the cookie cutter “good life” didn’t feel right which in turn made you believe something was wrong with you (#dirtypain).
STOP sacrificing your happiness!
START implementing routines and rituals that are IN FAVOUR OF your happiness!
START living the best life that you deserve to live!
So, in order to stop sacrificing your happiness and living to create the best possible you, I’ve provided you with my personal top ten decisions that can make or break your path to the happiest you!
DECIDING ON A JOB THAT PRODUCES THE UNHAPPIEST AND MOST STRESSED VERSION OF YOU
We knew this one was coming! Life success is more important than career success to me, and even if your job isn’t your purpose, I still firmly believe that you can have the most mundane job and still feel happy going to work each day. Working in an office environment with amazing people, and doing a job that not once created stress for me, felt like the best job in the world. You don’t need to follow society’s rules for determining success, you don’t need to start a business and you don’t need the most exciting job ever to create the happiest version of you!
Understandably, for a lot of people this point could be harder to work on if you’re already years into a career that you thought you enjoyed, and now you have responsibilities of an adult that you need this job for. However, I think it’s still important to know whether your job could be one of the decisions that is sacrificing your happiness. Perhaps you can start lining yourself up for something better, or trying to adapt your job in such a way that alleviates some pain.
DECIDING TO SAY YES WHEN YOU WANT TO SAY NO
Personally, I’ve been trying to say ‘no’ more this year when I truly want to, and it’s created less stress, a more balanced social life, and I feel empowered for sticking by these boundaries too. It’s not that I was always the one to say yes, but there were certain insecurities I used to have surrounding friends in particular, that made me jump at saying yes when hanging out suited them as opposed to when it suited both them AND myself.
DECIDING TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE
Choosing to hang around the right people that don’t make you question your relationship, don’t make you question their intentions, and don’t make you question yourself, is extremely important. If you’re self aware enough, you can LITERALLY feel it when you’re with the right (and wrong) people.
DECIDING NOT TO PRIORITISE SELF-DEVELOPMENT
We all know how much of a self-development queen I am! So of course I had to say that self development is a super important aspect in trying to make decisions in favour of your happiness! Self-development weaves all throughout this list because without dedicating time to self-development, you won’t be self-aware, you won’t be able to listen to your body, you won’t know how to lean into what feels good, you won’t have the strength to say no when you want to, and you won’t have the right mindset to create the happiest you.
If you’re not prioritising self-development you are sacrificing your happiness!
DECIDING NOT TO LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
As I mentioned in point four, self-development will help you lean into what your body is trying to tell you, and it’s important to do so, otherwise you’re constantly creating negative thoughts and feelings around things that should be beneficial to you. For example, if you’re constantly having to force yourself to workout everyday, you’re encouraging bad emotions around working out. Working out should be fun, energising and endorphin producing! Not to mention if you’re finding that working out everyday doesn’t work with your lifestyle, lean into what feels good so you don’t build up resentment towards that thing.
DECIDING NOT TO REACH OUT TO A PROFESSIONAL
If you read last week’s post about using the PERMA model to cultivate a happy life, you’ll know that you don’t have to have something wrong to seek professional guidance. Why can’t psychology help IMPROVE people who are okay, as well as help those who aren’t okay!?!!
DECIDING NOT TO HAVE A MORNING ROUTINE THAT EASES YOU INTO THE DAY IN THE MOST ALIGNED AND RELAXED WAY
I think that if you’re someone who gets out of bed at the last possible moment, only to rush around getting ready and become stressed about making it anywhere on time, then a morning routine is for you! Sleeping in is something we all seem to prioritise no matter how long we’ve already slept for, and I completely get it! However, think about how much smoother the day would go if you got up an hour earlier to implement a morning routine into your day. And depending on what your morning routine entails, you’ll often find you’re more focused during the day, you’re less stressed and you’re the most calm slowly easing into the day.
If you’re starting your day off stressed already, you are sacrificing your happiness!
DECIDING TO LET OTHER PEOPLE’S ENERGY AFFECT YOUR OWN
I’m still working on protecting my energy around others, because sometimes the people that you need protection from are people you can’t just cut out of your life – AKA family. I’ve been learning over the last month or so to protect my energy by refraining from talking about certain topics, and keeping some goals and visions of my future to myself.
DECIDING TO PRIORITISE YOUR PRESENT SELF OVER YOUR FUTURE SELF
I feel like we often make decisions in favour of our present self rather than our future self – like ordering takeout, not doing that workout, and putting off household chores until later. These are only a handful of examples of the decisions that can sacrifice our future self’s happiness! Of course, when it comes to such things as ordering takeout or skipping a workout, I firmly believe that if you’ve listened to your body and it’s telling you that you need a break, take a damn break! And similarly, you’re allowed to order takeout every once in a while and NOT feel guilty about it!
DECIDING TO LET SITUATIONS/SCENARIOS AFFECT YOUR MOOD FOR LONGER THAN THEY SHOULD
Do you let that person who cut you off on the road or gave you the finger like you did something wrong affect you longer than it should!?!? I am guilty as for letting this happen, and I’ve realised that this is harder for me to control on the road than it is anywhere else in my life. However, I’m getting better, and I constantly remind myself that. I want to feel good again sooner rather than later, and this often helps me snap back to my normal self!
I hope you’ve found my list enlightening and you’ve found something useful in here that will start (or continue) your journey to the happiest you!
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