Recognising your quarter life crisis is the first step to getting through the crisis. Looking back at my own QLC, it took me a loooong time to see it for what it was. I often joked about being in a crisis without realising it was a very real situation a lot of 20 something year olds go through. And the more I look back, the earlier I realise it all started!
These are some questions I think you should ask yourself to determine if you’re a quarter life crisis sufferer and what the source of your crisis might be…
DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE IN LIMBO?
Your 20’s are a strange time between two different lives. You’re not a teenager anymore who lives with their parents and goes to school, but more often than not you’re also not married with kids and a mortgage. Who are you then? Finding your place becomes hard when you feel like you’ve left one life but haven’t found the next.
HAVE YOU SPENT YEARS STUDYING ONE THING, ONLY TO CHANGE COURSE POST GRADUATION?
When you spend 3+ years pursuing a certain career only to realise it wasn’t for you, suddenly you’re 21/22 looking at the prospects of going back to study for another 3+ years. You realise that you’ll be graduating in your mid 20s. You feel like you’ll be left behind by your peers who found and successfully pursued their calling many years before you.
ARE YOU QUESTIONING YOUR LIFE PURPOSE AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO?
When you realise you don’t have a plan B to your abandoned degree, you’re forced to figure out your bigger picture. What do you want to do for the rest of your working life? How will you make money to survive? What is your true calling?
HAS A SPECIFIC EVENT IN YOUR LIFE TRIGGERED YOU TO QUESTION YOURSELF, YOUR LIFE AND YOUR FUTURE?
I believe only one true area of your life will trigger your crisis. Although I questioned my path and what I was going to do with my life, defining and finding life success was key to not letting those fears, take control. I found a full time office job that afforded me the time to actually enjoy life and I realised that was the best kind of success.
My QLC was only truly triggered after I broke up with my then boyfriend. I realised I was further away than ever to a “happily ever after”, while other people my age were on to their second child. I spiralled from there thinking about if I’d ever get married and how anyone even meets someone decent in the day and age of Tinder jerks.
DO YOU COMPARE YOUR PATH TO OTHERS?
The quarter life crisis is really just an unhealthy game of comparison!
You look to your parents and realise they had kids at your age; your grandparents had the same job for 50+ years since they were in their late teen years; you look to the people you went to high school with and realise they’re now getting married and buying a house; you look to social media and realise everyone has an online business and financial freedom and security; and you look at yourself and wonder why you aren’t on a similar path to any of them.
Let me tell you something…
You are on your own path!
You’re on your own timeline!
You are heading toward the exact place you need to be at exactly the right time for you!
Your speed is not a factor in getting where you want!
It’s my belief that good things take time. Make the right decisions out of excitement and happiness, rather than the wrong decisions out of fear and urgency.
If you loved this week’s post, check out ’10 Ways You Need to Assess Your Life to Become Happier‘. It gives you actionable steps for finding life success will help you be on your way to recovering from your quarter life crisis!
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